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Positive declarations or affirmation (I am loving, giving person, I earn $3000 a month, I am willing to change, etc) often work to make it happen (whatever we declare). But there are limits and ways to maximize/negate the effectiveness of these affirming statements.

First of all, affirmations must be positive and forward-going, something you wish to have happen (i.e. manifest). They are your goals, things you wish for, things you desire. Speaking them out loud is always best!

DO & DON’T

1. Don’t phrase them to emphasize what you are trying to rid yourself of (i.e. “I stop smoking” or “I get rid of my excess weight”- those accentuate the ideas of smoking/excess weight.
2. Don’t use the words “I want” in your affirmations because in English the word “want” carries an alternate meaning of “lack”. In effect you are stating “I lack ___” which is likely to help make your current situation continue! (Use “I wish” or “I desire” or “I have” instead of “I want.”)
3. Similarly, do not use the words “I need“; you are likely to remain stuck in your need.
4. Not Recommended. Trying to manifest a long term relationship by this method is NOT recommended. Many have tried; what often shows up unhappily is a relationship where you get to work on your stuff, your issues, your difficulties. The recommendation for those wanting to manifest a soul mate or long-term-relationship is to concentrate on your loving, loving more and perhaps loving different folks than customary for you. In other words, extend your loving and you will prepare yourself for a healthy relationship.

Place

Your Car Is an Affirmation Machine! Say your affirmations out loud and with great enthusiasm while driving down the road. If you are worried about what others might think, either grab a non-working cell phone to your ear or say them loudly without moving your lips. Tha’s what I do while I drive to work every morning.

Frequency

Louise Hay (a.k.a. the Affirmation Lady) recommends several hundred times every day and no more than 1-2 affirmations at a time. Others keep a somewhat different schedule, however, and have a list of affirmations that are voiced perhaps 10X twice daily.

Big Lie

You most likely will need to do an affirmation 400-500 times daily if it is a “big lie” (i.e. your affirmation is “I weigh 132lb” when the scale would reveal 200lb). In the case of a big lie you need to self-hypnotize yourself with the excessive repetition, otherwise the part of you that knows the falsehood will cynically respond “yeah right”.

This self-hypnosis (or you might call it heavy advertising or brainwashing or overpowering) is absolutely essential for the process to take hold. Once you repeat the affirmation hundreds of times, there is a small part of you that starts to say “perhaps”- it is this shadow of doubt that will allow in new experiences and new behaviors. Suddenly when confronted with an old familiar behavior pattern, you realize that there is another choice available for you. You can find out more self-hypnosis techniques here too.

Small Lie

How about small lies, like “I pay my bills on time every month”? This behavior change is not large; and even though it might be a lie, it is not that difficult to align yourself with, and just turning your attention to that affirmation on a daily basis may be enough to make it happen for you next month. If it doesn’t feel like a “big deal” to you, then affirmations which are small lies can probably be successfully accomplished on a 10X twice-daily basis.

Truthful Affirmations

The affirmations which are the truth already for you (”I am loving” for example) can be approached either by affirming it 400-500X daily or 10X twice-daily basis (this won’t manifest as fast). Such a truthful affirmation will tend to make what you affirm happen more and more frequently in your life. The more often you make such an affirmation, the sooner and more frequently it will manifest.

The Process

So you start saying an affirmation hundreds of times a day. What can you expect to have happen? Within a day or two you will start to manifest some resistance to this affirmation; you may “forget”, “reconsider”, “decide it won’t work” etc. You will very likely be confronted with at least one, perhaps several, of the reasons why you have the current situation; there are usually many reasons why the current situation is as it is. You will have to change your ideas and beliefs to manifest the affirmation. If you are unwilling or unable to make these necessary changes, you will soon stop the affirmations, probably claiming “they didn’t work” instead of the more accurate, “I’m not ready for that yet.” No matter- try the affirmation(s) that feel right- your resistance to some of them may not be that strong and you can easily manifest at least part of your desires.

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